How often do you see your parents?
It can really change from family to family. Some people’s parents live right down the road, and it’s not bother to run into them once or twice a week, maybe even go for a weekend dinner every now and again.
However, others live further away – and with lives that are constantly on the go, it can be difficult to make time to see them each week, let alone each month.
But as we said at the start, every family is different and what suits some might not suit others.
That’s why this woman has taken to Mumsnet to ask if she’s being unreasonable to not want to visit her parents multiple times in a week.
She said:
“DP’s parents are trying to guilt trip him into spending more time with them.
“Despite spending several evenings last week, and offering to see them in his lunch hour today, they are texting and ringing him about how disappointed they are.
“How much would you expect to see your children in their mid twenties?”
Many said they she needs to nip the situation in the bud as it could get worse with time.
One wrote:
“I’m over thirty and my parents have, several times, turned up on me and OH’s holidays unannounced when we made the mistake of telling them where we were going. Constantly keeping score of how often they see us etc. We had to basically stage an intervention!
“You set your own boundaries – and must importantly you have to do it as a couple.”
While another said:
“No way would either of us pressure him or our other sons into seeing us like your Dh is having to deal with.
“He needs to tell them to back off, it’s ridiculous how much time he’s already having to devote to them on their insistence.”
What do you think about this situation? Do you think the parents are asking too much?
