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29th Aug 2018

How clean is your house? New mum ‘expects’ mess from fellow mothers

Olivia Hayes

Is your house clean?

Do you have a system in place and was it spotless when you had a newborn?

We feel like it’s pretty much each to their own on this front, and while some mothers might have their place spotless, others have other children to look after, or find it hard during their first months as a parent.

We also have people that will clean up whenever anyone is on their way over (we know we do), however, this mum was shocked to see her friend’s house spotless on a recent visit.

She told Mumsnet:

“Visited friends today with babies the same age as mine (3 months) and their house was spotless. I would have to regularly spend a whole weekend with my partner cleaning to get the house that clean – breastfeeding is proving really time consuming and I like to be able to interact with baby for a bit of time when she is awake.

“AIBU to expect some mess from my fellow mums? Or am I being a bit lazy?”

Many mums replied to her saying that everyone has their own way of going about cleaning, and her friend might just have a good system in place.

One said:

“All babies are different. Maybe theirs love to sit and watch mummy do housework? Or knowing folk are coming round they spend more time cleaning? I won’t have people round when it’s messy.

“Or maybe they have a cleaner?”

While another wrote:

“I too have a friend with a spotless house, there is no dirt or mess, every cupboard is neat and organised. My children could probably eat for the day off the food on the floor at my place. Don’t compare yourself to her, she may have spent two hours cleaning just before you arrived (like I do before guests).”

Did you find it hard to clean after baby no.1?

Topics:

baby,cleaning,home