The bride was called “petty” for her response.
A mum has turned to the internet for advice after her youngest sister – who is 17-years-old – has been excluded from a wedding guest list.
The woman explained that she, her mum, dad and older sister had all received invites to the nuptials of a family friend, who they have known “all our lives”.
However, since the wedding is for people only over the age of 18, her younger sister did not.
When people began to query if an exception could be made for the teenager, who will turn 18 a week after the wedding, the bride was determined to stick with her plans.
And now the original poster has revealed that her entire family is thinking of not going to the nuptials.
She wrote on Mumsnet:
“My mum, dad, sister and me have been invited to a family friend’s wedding. Known her all our lives. She says on the invite ‘No Under 18s’
“We did wonder why our other sister wasn’t invited. She’s 17 (18 a week after the wedding), and has a DC of her own.
“My mum did mention in passing if [my younger sister] was invited if she could arrange childcare and the family friend’s response was ‘Sorry, but I’m sticking with No under 18s’.
“I think family friend is being unreasonable.
“It isn’t down to venue restrictions, either. It’s a very basic wedding with a little buffet and stuff afterwards. I had my wedding at the same location.
“I asked my DH, who usually sees both sides and agrees with the other person and not me, and even he agrees it is very odd!”
She later recalled how she had been discussing the plans for the guest list “a month or so ago”, when the bride made a comment she thought was a bit off.
She added:
“What’s more, we remember discussing her wedding plans a month or so ago and she said ‘absolutely no kids!
“Can’t wait for a peaceful and adult centred wedding. Will be nice’.
“I can’t get that comment out of my head. My sister isn’t a ‘kid’ in that sense.”
The woman later elaborated on the bride’s relationship with the sister, and how she might have “some hidden opinion we don’t know about” about her sibling.
She explained:
“She hasn’t said anything outright [about her sister being a mum] but she didn’t say anything about her pregnancy at the time, even when it was the biggest elephant in the room as it was a big topic near her due date, when me and her other sister were talking about exciting times being an Aunty, etc etc
“Did not congratulate or say anything nice to my sister when the baby was born and brought round to our local family pub for a get together.”
Some commenters were quick to call the bride-to-be “petty” and “ridiculous” for her insistence that the younger sister be excluded.
Others called it “rude” to exclude someone when all of their siblings were going.
Different people pointed out that it was totally up to the bride who she did – or didn’t – want at her wedding, and as much as the poster may disagree, she should let it go.
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