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28th Jan 2018

The most romantic thing you can do for your partner has been revealed

Keeley Ryan

Every person has their own little habits and quirks that may seem strange to others.

Some people need shoes at the door to be aligned a certain way, while others need every drawer to be fully shut.

And if we get stressed and irritable about them, it can result in some ridiculously overblown fights with our partners.

But, according to one relationship expert, it’s during these times that we actually see romance at its best.

Dr Laura Berman said that when your partner is stressed about something that may seem small, it can be easy to just ask “what’s the big deal?”

She explained PopSugar that if something important to someone – even if it may seem ridiculous to you – the response can feel like “a slap in the face”.

She advised that, instead, you should “facilitate and assist” in soothing whatever anxieties your partner may have.

She added:

“So, even if they don’t know why every candle in the house has to match, if they facilitate and assist, that is an act of real love and romance because it shows that even if they don’t understand it or think it’s important, it’s important to you, so they’re engaging and investing in it.”

As for what you shouldn’t do?

Dr Berman advises you to avoid trying to talk your partner out of it – even if you think they may be overreacting – and to put aside your own opinions on something your partner does care about.

By doing this, you’re showing your partner how much you value them – as well as your relationship.

Dr Berman added:

“It’s really important that each of you take responsibility for the bar that you’re setting and the unnecessary stress that you’re creating.”

So, the next time that your partner is upset about a missing shoe making them late or a wobbly picture frame, just take a deep breath and use Dr Berman’s advice.

It could be the most romantic thing you’ve ever done for them.