Dear boy mum, you need to read this beautiful reminder of your importance
To him, you will always be his home base
Trine Jensen-Burke
Trine Jensen-Burke
My little boy just turned four.
He is in many ways so much more toddler-ish at four than his three years older sister was at the same age. Where she was most definitively a little girl, not a toddler at four, he still remains one – maybe because I wish for his to stay just as he is for the longest time still.
Why? I’m not sure, other than that for now anyway, he is my youngest, my baby, and much as seeing him grow and learn and develop is the most amazing thing, I am also terrified of him growing up and away from me, fearing, I think, that you don’t really get to keep boys the same way you do girls.
And while the goal is, of course, for him to one day become independent and the kind of man who will take care of himself and his family with love and confidence, I also need to know that I will still be important. Still hold the power to make everything right in his world, whether he is four or thirty-four.
Which is why; I think, this post I came across on Instagram the other day just made me cry a little (ok; a lot):
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 I needed this reminder, I think, to heal my heart a little after having a little emotional mini-meltdown over the fact that he turned four recently. Being a mama is such a juxtaposition, isn’t it, being at the same time so thrilled to see the little people they are being moulded into and at the same time grieving the little baby that is growing up so much too fast.
But this job doesn’t end when they are grown up, mamas, we’re not done there. Being a boy mum – any mum, really – is forever. It’s being their home base, they constant, their sun, forever. And if that doesn’t bring it home just how important this job is, how important we really are, I don’t know what will.