A mother has taken to Mumsnet to complain about an incident between her daughter and another woman’s son.
While the children were playing in a soft play area, one little boy was being loud and pushy and was interfering with her daughter’s playing. When they were out of sight something happened between the two which resulted in the little girl coming back with a sore arm and a apology from the other mother on behalf of the boy.
The first mother didn’t read too much into it until later that evening when she realised that the little boy had, in fact, bitten her daughter and had left a big purple mark on her arm.
Taking to the parenting forum she said:
“Took DD (my daughter) aged 2 to soft play today. Was very quiet only two other mums there. One of their little boys also 2 was very loud/shouty/pushy and kept screaming in DDs (my daughter’s) face. She wasn’t bothered and the mum just kept telling him to stop.
Anyhoo the mum said “son don’t do that, son stop it now, SON STOP THATS BAD”. She went and got him and my DD came screaming over to me holding her arm. I just gave her a cuddle and said give her arm a rub.
Mum catches my eye and said “Sorry it was my little boy that made her cry”. I thought he’d hit or pushed her. And he went back in to play.
Tonight at bath a big purple f*cking bite mark. She SEEN him do it. Didn’t have the decency to even tell me. Didn’t even give me a proper apology, didn’t tell DS to say sorry and didn’t even tell him off. I could have put a cold compress on it had she said.
She’s a regular as I’ve seen her before. I’m absolutely fuming. I honestly think I’ll need to go and see her next time, even though I know there’s not much can be done after the fact.
If it was mine they would have been taken straight home. And I would have been mortified.
I can’t sleep I’m still upset over it.”
Other parents agreed with her anger:
“Take a photo of the bite mark and next time you go to the soft play and shes there, give her the picture and inform her the next time he does it you will be biting her.”
“That’s horrible and I’ve been there, discovering at bite mark after an incident.
If you see her again soon, show her.”“A bite is particularly nasty, breaking the skin, I would be upset too. He needs reining in for sure. Maybe show her a picture of the wound so that she understands what her son is doing to other kids.”
While some other parents weren’t so understanding:
“She did say sorry and told you it was her son, you didn’t check.
They’re 2, it’s soft play, it happens.”“You can’t sleep, over kids biting. With the greatest respect you need to relax. Toddlers will be toddlers. It happens 1000 times a day between children. Plus the mum did apologise.”
“You don’t know that she saw him do that specifically. It could have been an accident. This happens with 2 year olds. You weren’t watching your child. Next time watch your child if you want to know what happened.”
“Totally normal toddler behaviour and his mum apologised and removed him. Nothing else to do or say. Having a toddler who bites is NOT a reflection of bad parenting.”
