Stop sharing my baby news on Facebook!
You have waited nine months for this moment.
You have just experienced one of the most precious moments of your life and you cannot wait to tell your wider circle about this amazing experience. But wait, why is everyone suddenly texting you congratulating you on your baby boy? They love the name, they can't believe he is here, they can't believe how big he was. WHAT?
Some people have a friend like this - a friend who is SO SUPER EXCITED for your new arrival that they only go and post your news to the world before you can say 'placenta'.
Baby news etiquette differs for everyone. You almost need to make an action plan about what is going to happen, who you tell first, who you don't tell until the baby dust has settled.
A friend I know had to ask a relative to remove a quite unflattering picture of them in the birthing suite that had posted to social media. TMI much?
Imagine how this dad on Reddit felt when his baby thunder was stolen recently by a family friend (who also happened to be their paediatrician) who told all the waiting family and friends before the couple shared their news. And although it was not done over social media, the new dad felt a line had definitely been crossed.
"A friend of my wife - who also happens to be a paediatrician (and who we planned to use as our paediatrician) - told my family who was in the waiting room as soon as our daughter had been born. She had been in the waiting room with the rest of the family and friends, but she obtained this information by texting one of the nurses who she knew was on staff. Some nurse who wasn’t even working our case gave her the information. Our friend the paediatrician told everyone in the waiting room the joyful news. I was unaware, so our friends and family pretended to hear it for the first time when I arrived shortly thereafter. I found out the truth from the paediatrician herself who came clean.”
He says he questions whether or not he should feel so robbed:
“I have wondered whether that moment is too ‘Hollywoodised,’ but experiencing the primal triumph has made me realise that it isn’t unreasonable to feel robbed in that moment. I take solace in the fact that this experience in the hospital, and so much more broadly, fatherhood, is about so much more than that one moment. It’s somewhat comforting to focus on that. But that doesn’t change that one of the most joyful moments of my life has been tainted."
The replies are mixed. KittenTrap agrees it would concern him if his family doctor had such a big mouth:
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