This mum swears by a simple parenting technique we should all be doing 4 months ago

This mum swears by a simple parenting technique we should all be doing

When it comes to parenting, I try to live by the words of famous Swedish children's books author Astrid Lindgren (Pippi Longstocking, anyone?).

Lindgren, who was a keen champion of children's rights and the importance of a good, happy childhood, said the following about how to raise children: "Give children love, love and more love. And then common sense will come by itself."

I firmly believe this to be true – which is why I love this simple parenting trick Instamum Clemmie Hooper – better known to some by the Instagram handle @mother_of_daughters –  shared on the social media platform.

Clemmie, who is a midwife from Kent, UK,  revealed her go-to method for keeping her four daughters emotionally well-balanced and happy, and it sounds like such a lovely thing to do I am planning to start using it with my own two children immediately.

Picked this one up early from holiday club today and had a window of opportunity to do some long overdue Love Bombing. I read a book years ago by Oliver James when I had just two children (pah) which talks all about this concept of giving them intense experience of feeling completely loved and in control. We only had 2 hours so we swam in the sea, met some mermaids, built a huge sandcastle and decorated it with shells. We ate fish and chips for tea washed down with Lilt, all in all it was perfect. Parenting is the toughest job I’ve ever done and with my attention constantly being spilt between 4 children I never feel that I do enough or give them what they really need. But this evenings Love Bombing session made me see the light again ? #motherhood #thehardestjobwithnotraining #lovebombing #motherofdaughters

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She wrote:

“Picked this one up early from holiday club today and had a window of opportunity to do some long overdue Love Bombing. I read a book years ago by Oliver James when I had just two children (pah) which talks all about this concept of giving them the intense experience of feeling completely loved and in control. We only had 2 hours so we swam in the sea, met some mermaids, built a huge sandcastle and decorated it with shells. We ate fish and chips for tea washed down with Lilt, all in all it was perfect. Parenting is the toughest job I’ve ever done and with my attention constantly being spilt between 4 children I never feel that I do enough or give them what they really need. But this evenings Love Bombing session made me see the light again."

So – love bombing.

Souds lovely? It is. According to Babyology, the term was first coined and developed by psychologist Oliver James and involves spending a period of time alone with your child, during which you offer her “unlimited love and control.”

In his book, Love Bombing: Reset Your Child’s Emotional Thermostat,  James, believes that giving your child this intense experience can be a seriously effective solution for children with emotional or behavioural difficulties.

However, I think we can all agree that not just children with emotional or behavioural difficulties, but all children – even happy ones – will benefit from this lovely habit. “So many parents are, or have had, periods of living very busy or miserable or complicated lives, most of us need to reconnect with our children from time to time,” says James. “The method works equally well whatever your social background, ethnic origin, or nationality because the fundamental needs of children are the same everywhere.”