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11th May 2016

Wedding Guest Left Gobsmacked After Newlyweds Ask Them For More Money

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Usually when you’ve attended someone’s wedding and given them a gift, you get a ‘Thank You’ card or some other symbol of gratitude.

What you don’t usually get is an email basically saying that your present wasn’t expensive enough and you should feel free to give something more.

But that’s exactly what one woman got after attending the wedding of a former colleague.

User Puzzledandpissedoff took to the forum Mumsnet to ask the world how she should respond to the email.

She explained that she gave the couple a cheque for £100 as they had requested money instead of gifts and was “utterly gobsmacked” to have received such a response.

The newlyweds apparently said: “we were surprised that your contribution didn’t seem to match the warmth of your food wishes on our big day.

“In view of your own position, if you wanted to send any adjustment it would be thankfully received.”

The bemused guest believes that the phrase “your own position” refers to a recent inheritance she received.

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She finished off by asking: “please, anyone, what do I do now? I’ve never come across anything like this before and still can’t believe they’ve done it… should I reply, ring them, ignore it or what??”

One commenter suggested: “Tell them to scrap the cheque and you’ll send a replacement more befitting. Then send them 10p.”

Another recommended the following: “I would email back but BCC any mutual friends in so they are able to see the email for themselves or send a glitter bomb as the extra.”

Apparently the cheque had already been cashed, which rules out the first one, and the user ended up simply replying: “I assume this was some sort of mistake.”

While those aren’t the words we would have chosen (they’d be a little stronger!), we’re glad the guest didn’t feel compelled to send another generous gift.

A recent survey revealed the average price that people spend on wedding gifts, depending on who is getting married. It found that Irish people spend roughly €31 on a gift for a colleague. Find out more HERE.