This list of ‘rules’ for the friends of breastfeeding mums is ABSOLUTELY spot on

“Don’t ask me when I plan on weaning.”

Ever wish you could politely but firmly give your family and friends some guidelines on how to act while your breastfeeding?

Well, we’ve found one online and reckon it’s pretty much spot on.

People always mean the best but when you’re new to breastfeeding, very sleep deprived and probably worried you’re doing it wrong, your patience with those around you can wear thin.

This list was compiled by Kristy Kemp on her Facebook page Breastfeeding Mama Talks, which asked its community members for their ultimate do’s and don’ts.

Our favourite nugget that Kirsty shared is probably “I loved it when my breastfeeding was a non-issue. Like everyone went about our conversation like nothing was different.”

Breastfeeding mums need us all to be sensitive but it’s important to remember that they’re just people too.

Here are the full lists:

Do’s

1. Please just believe me when I tell you my baby is hungry. I know her best, and crying is a late hunger sign.. not the only one..
2. Bring me water and talk to me about adult things! Not about my boobs! And remember that I am listening, even if I am staring at the baby struggling to latch on.
3. If you see a mom breastfeeding in public, tell her she rocks. Chances are she needs to hear it, and it will make her day.
4. My mom always told me “Just keep going. The pain will go away!” I’m so thankful for my mom encouraging me through the horrible pain in the beginning. We did it together. The pain left and breastfeeding lasted for over a year.
5. My husband will burp the baby and hold him and comfort him when I need a break. My baby is a month old and will nurse all day long so it’s nice to be able to walk around the house and do things for myself.
6. I loved it when my breastfeeding was a non-issue. Like everyone went about our conversation like nothing was different. Normalizing breastfeeding at its finest.
7. Feed me!! Rub my feet. Rub my shoulders, take care of me so I can take care our little one, make me feel like I am not doing this alone!

Don’ts

1. Don’t suggest I go to another room to breastfeed in my own home. If you don’t like it, don’t come over.
2. Don’t suggest I supplement at night because I look exhausted. I haven’t slept through the night in 13+ years, that’s why I look exhausted. Supplementing won’t help ME sleep.
3. Don’t ask me when I plan on weaning.
4. When someone is feeding their child, try not to make lots of abrupt or loud sounds that distract the baby because Niplash does not feel good!
5. Stop questioning if she’s eaten enough when she is just cluster feeding before she sleeps for the night.
6. Leave my baby alone while breastfeeding, it is our moment, our bond.

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