"A lot of the girls didn’t understand."
Binky Felstead has opened up about an aspect of motherhood that isn't discussed enough. The Made In Chelsea star reflected on the way your social circles change so drastically when you become a mum.
The mum-of-two was 26-years-old when she was expecting her first child- daughter India.
She admitted that being the first in her friend group to become pregnant was far from easy. "I was the first of my friendship group [to have a baby] so it was quite an isolating and lonely time. All my friends were going to parties, wearing little dresses and crop tops, and I just felt so rank. I felt tired and emotional, I didn’t feel like myself, I was confused, I didn’t know what to expect, I didn’t really ask anyone…"
"I think I lost a lot of friends, I had my core group of girlfriends still, but a lot of the girls didn’t understand.," she told
RTÉ.
"I messaged one of them, saying, ‘I’m really sorry I can’t come to your birthday party, I’m just feeling so rubbish’. I was seeing all these messages going back and forth on a WhatsApp group, saying, ‘I’m going to wear heels, my tight dress, we’re going to take selfies’, and I thought, ‘Oh my God, that sounds like my idea of hell’.
"We didn’t speak for years after. Only recently has she come back and said, ‘I’m really sorry, I didn’t really get what you were going through.
"That happened quite a lot, and actually I didn’t really mind. Life changes so much [when you have children] and for me, for the better."
Felstead may have missed out on nights out and lost friends, but she gained two of the cutest kids when she became a mum. She shares her 4-year-old daughter India with ex-boyfriend Josh Patterson and newborn Wolfie with her husband Max Darnton.
