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5th February 2018
09:19am GMT
"Hi. My bfs hen do is next month and the cost of it seems to be growing arms and legs. Especially down to the fact that I'm also a bridesmaid. My bf doesn't know about it as she's not part of the planning it's a surprise. She would be very unhappy about the costs I can assure you.She goes on to explain about the extra costs that she is not willing to pay for:
Now the other bridesmaids are demanding another £40pp for alcohol and food. I'm happy to pay £20 for food costs but they all know I'm pregnant and will not be drinking but are still expecting me to pay for alcohol.. aibu to refuse? I've also refused to pay for a mini bus as I will not be on it. I live 20 mins away from where the house is so I'm driving down on my own. If I were to get the mini bus I would have to drive 45mins in the opposite direction to leave my car then spend over an hour on the bus (which the brides not even going to be on as she's going in the car with her mum) I'm just getting really ticked off at the whole thing!!"Other people are in complete agreement with her that it's not on for her to be expected to pay for extras like alcohol.
"You're being entirely reasonble, and don't let anyone tell you any different! How on earth can they think you're "getting away with not paying for alcohol," when you won't be drinking any? Idiots." "Sounds like the other BMs are ridiculous. Of course you shouldn’t have to pay for alcohol."Other people are suggesting that she pays for the bride's alcohol:
"You should probably make a token contribution to the bride's alcohol if you are all paying for her." "You may need to contribute to the brides alcohol but of course they won’t need to buy any for you and you shouldn’t have to pay for that. Or the minibus you’re not using!"What do you think? Would you be happy to contribute to alcohol if you were pregnant at a hen?
