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06th Nov 2018

Mum doesn’t know whether to tell her daughter her boyfriend is cheating on her

Olivia Hayes

What an awful situation to be in.

It’s never nice to find out that someone you care about is being cheated on – but that’s the situation this mother finds herself in.

The mum took to Mumsnet to share her story, as she doesn’t know what to do, or if she should tell her daughter she knows.

She said:

“She’s 16, he’s 17.5 and they’ve been dating for about 6 months. They both use Instagram but dd has never used Facebook. very now and then I glance at his page – I’m not being a stalker but I am concerned as dd is so smitten and really I know so little about him. He went to a party last weekend and a friend has uploaded a bunch of photographs of him with another girl! They are snogging, all over each other.

“I actually feel quite sick about it. Dd had severe anxiety earlier this year and was off school for 7 months in total; she was also self-harming. Having him in her life has made her so much happier and more confident but now I think he uses her.

“Have I been a total mug in allowing him to be with my dd? I am honestly so stressed, my hands are shaking.”

Many mums replied to her saying that she should tell her daughter before he can lie about it.

One said:

“I think you need to sit your DD down and show/tell her everything. Poor her. And poor you. But it’s not fair if she thinks they are exclusive and he’s actually playing the field. NOT telling her is just a disaster waiting to happen.”

While another wrote:

“I would show her the pictures and let her make her own mind up but your poor DD deserves so much better than that and using her anxiety as his reasoning behind why he travels to her and she’s never been to his I would now be finding that one very suspicious.”

What would you do if you were in her situation?

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