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27th July 2015
09:09am BST

And it’s all true – well, kind of. But there’s also a more honest version of our holiday – the story behind the images.
In each case, there’s a photo that could have been taken two minutes before or five minutes after, which would tell of a very different holiday. The photos I didn’t share on Facebook or didn’t take at all.
A short while before the swimming pool photo, I was threatening to march one of the kids back to the mobile home if she didn’t stop shouting about her missing goggles. I was breaking up an argument between the two girls about the one remaining pair of goggles. I was trying to explain to the small boy for the eighty-fifth time that he can’t just wander off, and he can’t just jump in at the deep end (“But why can’t me swim here? You are MEAN!” “Eh, because you’re three and you can’t actually swim.”)
There’s no photo of the wasp that stung my six-year-old, and no photo of the anxiety when we lost sight of the seven-year-old for ten minutes. There might be a photo somewhere of the large glass of wine I poured that night, once they were all in bed.
The cathedral photo was taken in 35 degree heat, with two participants who were eager to get the photo over and done with so they could get some ice-cream and air-con. We’d had a fraught journey (“This is taking FOREVER”), a complaint-laden wander around the city-centre, followed by relief when I said that after we’d seen the cathedral we could have ice-cream. Then finally they smiled. Snap – that’s the photo that will remind us of our amazing day-trip – box firmly ticked.
The restaurant trip was lovely and stressful and funny and awful and messy and brief, the way restaurant trips with three small kids tend to be. But hey, we have a photo that will make us think it was mostly just lovely, so that’s not such a bad thing.
And the one of my small boy kissing my forehead? That’s real, but then again, he’s probably apologising for running off/ locking us out of the mobile/ spilling the juice/ doing absolutely nothing we asked him to do for the entire two weeks.
But who wants to see a photo of that?
I suspect I’m not the only one guilty of sharing my best photos on Facebook, but isn’t that what we’ve always done. It’s just that previous generations did it offline – framing the smiling pictures of the sunniest days.
I think it’s OK to want to capture our good times, and I think it’s human to want to share them. And as for the horror stories? They’ll keep. They’re for swapping over some well-earned post-holiday wine.
Andrea Mara is a shoe-obsessed, coffee-loving mother of three from Dublin. When she’s not working or looking after her three small kids, she’s simultaneously making tomorrow’s school lunches, eating Toblerone and letting off steam on her blog.
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