We Can ALL Relate To This Mum's Honest Photo About The Messy Reality Of Breastfeeding 6 years ago

We Can ALL Relate To This Mum's Honest Photo About The Messy Reality Of Breastfeeding

I had visualised a motherly goddess version of myself, curled up on the glider with glowing skin as my baby suckled happily.

The reality was very different.

Everyone's feeding journey is different, and I am so happy so many people find it easy and straightforward. And, while I didn't have a massive struggle with mastitis or getting the latch, I was very surprised at how long it took me to 'get the knack' of it.

I often found myself wedged into the back of the car between car seats as I yanked up my top to pacify my daughter if we got caught short out visiting or shopping.

I also wish someone had told me that often the baby pulls on and off the nipple and shake their head about so even while trying to be discreet - it was like wrestling with a baby octopus a lot of the time. A very cute baby octopus all the same.

So when I came across this post on social media it really resonated with me. This mum from Nashville put up a picture of herself on Instagram showing the messy reality that can come with nursing your baby.

Leah, who has a seven-week old daughter, wrote a very honest and passionate post about confidence when it comes to how we approach feeding in general.

 “You truly don’t know what’s going on down there,” she wrote. “Too much? Too little? Too intense? Not enough hindmilk? Not enough time? Plugged duct? Mastitis?”

Ok, I'm going to say it for us all. Breastfeeding is hard. It's really, really hard. Sometimes I can't even explain what makes it so difficult. The uncertainty, second guessing, responsibility, commitment, discomfort...just to name a few. We trusted our bodies to grow our babies for 9 months and now we have to trust our body to supply the nourishment for our babes growth & development. Talk about pressure? Breastfeeding is full of unanswered questions. You truly don't know what's going on down there. Too much? Too little? Too intense? Not enough hindmilk? Not enough time? Plugged duct? Mastitis? WTF!!! As if it wasn't hard enough?And of course the biggest way to know if you're doing well is if the baby is gaining weight...great, let me just whip out my handy dandy baby scale?..But, even with all of that. We all so desperately want to survive and push through. We so badly want to have our baby thrive. We want that relationship. We want the experience. In the end, fed is best. That's what matters. But all I know right now is that breastfeeding is hard. I am doing my very best but always have a question in the back of my mind. Always second guessing myself. Always wondering if I'm doing OKAY. I'm determined to tough it out. I want to do this. Mamas really do need all the support they can get. So mama, you're hearing it from me, you're not going crazy, it is hard, but you're doing good. Keep going!! There's a rumor going around that it gets easier? • • • #motherhoodrising #motherhood #motherhoodunplugged #postpartum #breastfeeding #ebf #fedisbest #baby #newborn #mom #mama #momlife #fitpregnancy #pregnant #pregnancy #babygirl #letthembelittle #laleche #momstrong #fitmom #mommy #daughter #ig_baby #ig_motherhood #newmom #healthypregnancy #strongmom

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She went on to say she is bombarded with pictures that make it look so easy:

"In the end, fed is best. That's what matters. But all I know right now is that breastfeeding is hard. I am doing my very best but always had a question in the back of my mind. Always second guessing myself. Always wondering if I'm doing OKAY?"

She says she hopes to inspire other mums who may be struggling:

"It is hard but your doing good. Keep going! There's a rumor going around that it gets easier"

(Images via TheNashvilleBump)

We would love to hear your thoughts on this. Have you found it tough?