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22nd Apr 2019

New mum’s strict list of rules for visiting her newborn divides other parents

Are these fair enough or too far?

Anna O'Rourke

“We would appreciate no comments on Mum’s size/weight.”

A mum-to-be has revealed her proposed list of rules for friends and family coming to visit after she gives birth – and they’re pretty strict.

The woman, who welcomed her first child with her husband in March, took to the BabyCentre website to ask other parents whether it would be OK to set these ground rules for anyone calling over.

She admitted to being “a bit clueless” when it comes to motherhood but says she wants time to bond with her new arrival, reports the Mirror.

Mum's strict rules for family visiting newborn divides other parents

“Would it be unreasonable to set some basic rules for family and friends visiting and have them pinned to the door or the likes?”

These are the rules she’s thinking of imposing.

“Thank you for coming to visit our new baby!

“PLEASE – be honest about your health – if you have been feeling unwell please come back another time.

“PLEASE – wait for Mum/Dad to offer you the baby. Baby may be sleeping or eating so we will let you know when baby is ready to be held by someone else.

“PLEASE – wash your hands before holding the baby.

“PLEASE – don’t ring the doorbell in case you wake the baby. You wake the baby you volunteer for baby-sitting! You have been warned….!

“We would appreciate no comments on Mum’s size/weight.

“Last but not least, please don’t take things personally. We are first time parents who are sleep deprived and anxious – its our first time at this and we are still getting our heads around our wee bundle.

“We’re happy you’re here!!”

Mum's strict rules for family visiting newborn divides other parents

Many of the other parents on the site thought this approach was a bit much and advised her to speak to her friends and family before they call over instead.

“You don’t need to pin a note to the door, it’s OTT and way too formal,” wrote one.

“Just tell people. Most people will arrange to see you in advance rather than just dropping in,” commented another.

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