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04th Jul 2018

Mum ‘cried in the changing room’ after women made mean comments on her weight

Olivia Hayes

This is pretty awful.

A mum has taken to Mumsnet to share her upset after she heard other women make mean comments about her weight.

The mum starts off by saying she has been struggling with her image for a while now, however she got back out there and went swimming to make herself feel better.

“I’ve put a lot of weight on over the last couple of years (combination of factors) and I’m really working hard to get back on top of things. I’ve lost nearly a stone already, but I’m still a size 18 (5′ 11” for context).

“There were a couple of women there swimming together and chatting, and a few people swimming alone like me, so it was nice and quiet. I managed my fifty lengths and was feeling really pleased.”

However, when she went back into the changing rooms, the women that were in the pool came in, and didn’t notice she was there.

“Went into a cubicle to get changed and was almost done when the chatting ladies came in. They were giggling about a man who had been in the pool, saying he was so hairy he shouldn’t be allowed. Then ‘Oh my God though did you see the fatty with the tats? Whales should be in an aquarium not a public pool’

“They made a few other comments that made it clear they were talking about me. I’d like to say I walked out with my head held high, but I just sat in the cubicle and cried.”

She then asked the forum why do people make mean comments, and why do they have to be so nasty?

“I was feeling so positive and now I feel embarrassed and ashamed, and annoyed with myself for letting them get to me. Not sure if I’ll have the confidence to go back now.”

The women of Mumsnet supported her in their troops, commenting that there’s no need for people to be so mean.

One said:

“FIFTY LENGTHS?! Bloody hell OP, that’s amazing!”

While another commented:

“They do it because they are horrible, nasty people. Forget about them. They must be unhappy themselves to make such mean comments.”

And one more added:

“Horrid horrid people. Well done for losing a stone. 50 lengths is amazing btw.

“They hate obviously horrible judgemental people who are probably insecure if they need to spend their time slagging off other people.”

Have you ever been subjected to this kind of nastiness? How did you overcome it?