Another study by Harvard Graduate School of Education seconded these finding, explaining how
free play helps kids develop important skills like creative thinking, analyzing patterns, using empathy, regulating their own emotions, and so much more.
“Play is a child’s work,” says
Kathryn Smerling, PhD, LCSW, family therapist in New York City, in an interview with
Romper. “Kids need to be able to play without an adult directing the play because that’s the way a child learns. By building a building, it tumbling down, and then rebuilding it, they’re learning to tackle failure and build resilience. It’s how a child learns how to fail, succeed, share, and negotiate.”
Dan Marullo, PhD, pediatric psychologist at Children’s of Alabama agrees, and explains that play is crucial to every child’s cognitive and social growth, and that the more they play, the better they’ll develop. But he says unsupervised play doesn’t mean children should be left alone or put in unsafe environments. Instead, parents should think of it as “child-led” playtime.
“’Unsupervised’ doesn’t necessarily mean that adults aren’t present, and how much presence adults have should be age-dependent. It can help to think about this in terms of adult-led play versus child-led play. If you think about play as the natural ability of the child to explore their world and interactions, the more play is directed by them, the more they’re learning.”
In other words, too much adult interference can prevent kids from developing their own life skills through playing, like the ability to resolve conflict. “If you watch preschoolers play, they get into little arguments, but if you leave them be, they work it out. If adults interject and direct that, they don’t have the ability to learn those skills on their own. They need the opportunity to get out there, get dirty, and make mistakes, both alone and with their peers,” Marullo says.
Smerling gives examples of how you can encourage free, unsupervised play in a safe way:
“I would probably have a playdate with some of his peers from his class, and set them up at the table with stickers, paper, crayons, puzzles, and things like that, and encourage the kids to make a card for their mom or dad, or try to solve the puzzle together," she tells Romper. "Crafts help them to independently make something and be proud of it. It can be as simple as making a card or picture, finger painting, or a craft kit as they get older. The peer-to-peer interaction with making a kit from a box is great because they’re going to read the directions together and try to collaborate about what they’re going to make."
So there you have it, mums. There is no need to feel like you need to entertain your kids all through the Christmas holidays. Let them play away by themselves while you drink your coffee (and eat your tin of Roses) in peace. After all – you are doing them a favour!
Nowadays, few children have that same level of freedom.
I know my own two children don't. Not where we live anyway.
Here, in South Dublin, they don't really run out to play outside, where we live is too urban for that. And while they can play at the local green, it still does not feel like the same level of freedom that I had growing up.
Now, more often than not, they have play dates, either going home to a friend's house – because it has been organized that they will do so, or we will bring one or more of their little friends home from school for a play. At weekends, we might meet up with friends at the local farmer's market or head to someone's house for brunch – again with the purpose of it being a social outing for both kids and adults alike.
What's more: Children today often have a string of activities to keep them busy too – all of which take away from playtime.
Which is why experts are now warning parents to relax a little with the activities and the involvement – in other words; backing off to give children plenty of time for unstructured, unsupervised play.
Why? Because it will benefit them immensely.
According to a new study published in Science Daily, researchers at University College London found that children who are allowed to play unsupervised are not only more sociable but also more active.
