A woman has said that she finds her friends “boring” now that they’ve got children.
The unnamed woman – who has no children of her own – said that she doesn’t really want to spend time with her friends anymore because they are constantly being “interrupted by toddlers.”
Writing on Mumsnet, she said that she “isn’t a complete bitch” but that she just doesn’t want to be around them as much.
She said:
“They all, without exception, have under 5s. I’m not a complete bitch and I do get it. But just the same, when I see them, it’s largely pointless as it’s just constant interruptions from toddlers.
“We have to sit in soft play or parks or farms with school canteen food and high chairs. Topics of conversation are sleep and potty training. Even anything about work is linked to the kids, like the difficulty of going back part time.”
The woman said that because of this, she often finds herself on her own and that any other activities she finds for women in their 30s are often geared towards mothers.
Most people were sympathetic to the woman, writing that it is hard to find new friends in your 30s.
Others gave her some suggestions as to what she could do for activities that aren’t just geared towards mothers, such as taking up a sport.
However, some people said they understood the situation but that the woman also had to understand that it’s not her friends’ faults that they can’t be as available as they were before they had kids.
One person said:
“Yes they’ll be less available, time together may be shorter or different, conversations will be continually interrupted by toddlers.
“Just carry on seeing them wherever and whenever you can (don’t let on when you’re a bit bored!).”
Another said:
“I’m not surprised that they can’t/won’t do that sort of companiable thing either – if they are working, they will want to enjoy their free time with their children and they will have domestic errands to run.”
So what do you think? Should she just get some new friends?
