Mum sparks debate after banning her son's bully from birthday party- was she wrong? 1 month ago

Mum sparks debate after banning her son's bully from birthday party- was she wrong?

She said the bully made her son's life "a living hell".

One mum has opened up about banning her son's bully from his birthday party.

She explained that her son had just turned 8-years-old.

The mum decided to host a party for her son and let him invite some friends from his class, including a boy named Kyle.

The mum admitted that she didn't realise Kyle was cousins with a boy named Josh, who is her son's bully.

She told Reddit, "I did not know Kyle was cousins with this other boy in their class Josh. Josh has been sh*tty to my son for a while now."

However, Josh has been through quite a lot in recent times, which may be the real reason behind his bullying behaviour.

"The poor kid has gone through a lot. His baby sister died, then his dad leaves him and his mom. My son has a baby brother and he has both me and my husband (his dad) still in the one home. So he has become a target for Josh’s hurt and anger.”

The mum said the bullying worsened when pupils returned to in-person learning.

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She said the bully made her son's life "a living hell".

"I was on the school’s ass about it. I put in for a class transfer but was denied because they were ‘dealing with it.’ When they returned to school a few weeks ago Josh was still targeting my son.”

Naturally, the mum didn't want a bully at the birthday party so it's safe to say she was surprised when he showed up with his cousin Kyle.

Kyle's mother, who is Josh's aunt, explained that it might help to include him.

“I said no way. That he was not invited and given the way he treats my son he was not coming in. She argued with me but I stood firm.”

The mum explained that Josh's presence made her son extremely upset and uncomfortable.

"My son freaked out when he saw Josh at our house and asked if he was staying. He was so relieved he wasn’t."

The mum said she was relieved when Josh and his aunt left, but still felt bad for telling him he wasn't allowed in.

"I feel bad for the kid but feel my only loyalty is to my son.”

A lot of parents sided with the mum and agreed that it was so wrong of the aunt to bring Josh to the party.

Others said the mother should have been more empathetic given everything young Josh has been through recently.

One user wrote: "This woman knew what her nephew had been doing to your son. This was not about Josh. This was your son’s day and you did the right thing."

We have to side with the mum here, but what do you think? Was she in the wrong or would you have done the same if you were in her shoes?