‘Am I wrong for telling my son’s girlfriend to leave him?’

Anna Martin

Would you tell your son’s girlfriend to leave him?

Most parents would probably answer no, but not this one on Reddit and now she’s wondering if she was in the wrong.

Before anyone goes jumping to conclusions about her being one of those overprotective helicopter parents we see so much about, it seems like she was looking out for his girlfriend.

Explaining why she did what she did, the woman wrote: “My son has been in a relationship with his girlfriend, Lily, for about three years now.

“I love my son and I hate to say this, but he’s not turned out to be a good person. He has very little work ethic, has no desire to get a job or go to college, and spends most of his time gaming or partying.

“Lily, on the other hand, is the polar opposite. She’s very studious, has aspirations to be a doctor, is a very good swimmer, and is currently away at college.”

The mystery woman stated that when the former first started dating, they were a good match and her son was a lot more proactive when it came to taking care of himself.

Yet as time progressed that seemed to fall away and though he loves Lily he now does little to show it.

Continuing her story, the Redditor wrote: “When Lily came to visit a few days ago, she was visibly upset. When my son went to the store, I asked her if she was okay, and she told me that she didn’t know what to do and wondered why my son had such little ambition and was so lazy.

“I told her I didn’t see it changing anytime soon (as that’s my view given it’s been ongoing for almost two years); when she asked what I would do in her situation, I told her to put herself first and what she wanted. Lily thanked me and said she’d think about things.”

It seemed her words had an impact as soon after her son told her that Lily had broken up with him over text.

Not only that but she told him that she had reached the decision after speaking to his mother.

“My son is now not talking to me and my husband is annoyed, believing that having no Lily will make my son’s rut last even longer. I also miss having Lily around,” she concluded.

Now the mother is wondering if she overstepped boundaries by being honest with his girlfriend.

It seemed that people were on her side as one commented: “You didn’t tell her to break up with him, you told her she needs to put herself first which is solid advice to anybody.”

Another added: “You didn’t tell her to break up with him, you told her she needs to put herself first which is solid advice to anybody.”

A third penned: “You didn’t go out of your way to tell her to break up. She sought out your advice and you gave her an honest answer.”