Woman unhappy with engagement ring – the internet reacts

This has caused quite the stir.

When it comes to an engagement ring, there are a lot of things to consider and every couple is different so it's no surprise that people are up in arms about this particular online post. One woman took to Mumsnet to share her disappointment about the engagement ring she received from her other half and to ask if she was being unreasonable. An extract from the post, which you can see in full here, reads:

"He’ll be more disappointed in me for making a fuss over it when, in his eyes, it fits and there’s nothing actually wrong with it rather than being disappointed that I’m not truly happy with it. Someone at work apparently told him that ‘if she makes it all about the ring, then she’s not the girl for you’. "Ideally I would have loved for us to have chosen a ring together and made a special day finding one we both liked. "As it’s something I’ll be wearing every day and is such a special piece of jewellery I wanted to really love it and I just don’t. "Has anyone else been in this situation? What did you do?"

The woman also discussed the price of the engagement ring (£1,300) and the fact that she didn't like the 'colour of the gold, the setting, the small stone'. There was a mixed reaction to her post but a lot of people were outraged by the fact she was complaining about the ring given to her. One Mumsnet user wrote:

"I'd have been delighted; talk about being ungrateful, the person at work is 100% right".

Another said:

"I don't really see your problem? All you don't like about the ring is it's "small" and only cost 1300 where you think he should of spend more. I'd be disappointed if I asked someone to marry me and they made a fuss over the ring tbh. I mean someone wants to commit the rest of your lives together and you want to make a fuss over a ring? Someone at work apparently told him that ‘if she makes it all about the ring, then she’s not the girl for you' Well I agree. Marriage and a life together is about so much more than a ring. Maybe be an adult and understand that a ring doesn't make a marriage?".

Someone else commented:

"If you'd said you didn't like the style I'd have been fairly sympathetic. But if it's simply not big and flashy enough...it sounds like you're more interested in showing off the ring than you are in him".

However, there were some readers who could see her point of view. This user agreed, writing:

"Well I don't think you're being unreasonable - maybe a bit about the size but you're the one who has to wear it for the rest of your life so you need to at least like the style! I would very kindly tell him that it's lovely but you would rather have a different style and ask if you can choose something together. If you can't have that conversation with him then you probably shouldn't be getting married!".

Another reader backed her up too.

"There's no way on earth I'd allow someone else choose a piece of jewellery for me that I'd potentially be wearing for decades. I wouldn't even let my partner choose this year's winter coat".

What do you think? Was her reaction out of line or can you see her point?