Bob Geldolf has opened up about the ‘unbearable’ pain of losing a child.
The 68-year-old appeared on the Tommy Tiernan Show on Saturday, where he spoke about the death of his daughter Peaches in 2014.
“Last week I went to the funeral of my mate’s son. And he didn’t want me to come for fear that I had to relive it. But I had to be there for him because it is unbearable,” he said.
“Time doesn’t heal, time accommodates and it’s ever-present. You’re driving along and you’re at the traffic lights and for no reason whatsoever, the person in question inhabits you and I’ll cry. And then I’ll look around to make sure the people next door don’t see me or are taking a photo and posting it or something.”
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“But that happens and that happens to everyone. And so you say, ‘Okay it’s time to cry now’. You just do it, you cry to the maximum and then you go, the grief is bottomless and intimate. I didn’t understand why I lost everything I thought to be true,” he continued.
“Lights are green, or whatever, and then you go. That’ll always be there and you accommodate that. Once you understand the nature of this because it is boundless and it is bottomless. The grief and the abyss is infinite.”
He added that while he had found it hard to deal with his loss in a public way, it was the “nature of my life and job”.
