'I don't love my kids the same': One mum's honest post about her two boys 4 years ago

'I don't love my kids the same': One mum's honest post about her two boys

One mum has shared an honest post about the love she feels for her two sons and why it’s OK to love them both differently.

Casey Huff, the woman behind Etched in Home, took to Facebook to share a candid post about being a parent to two boys and how she worried she wouldn’t be able to love them equally before she gave birth to baby number two.

“This worry-turned-fact is something that kept me awake when I was pregnant with my second son; stealing the peace of the night as I wondered how in the world I could make enough room in my already bursting heart for another,” read her post on Facebook.

“It was the unsettled feeling that I cried over on the way to the hospital after dropped our oldest boy off. The next time we saw him he would be a big brother, and I wondered how I could ever love the new baby with the same overwhelming love I felt for him.

“As with so many other things – if only I had known then what I know now, I wouldn’t have wasted all of that worry.”

Casey went on to talk about how she was surprised at the amount of love she found herself able to give after welcoming her second child.

“When our second was born, my heart grew exponentially in an instant, overtaking anything I ever could have imagined. I loved this new baby with my whole heart.

“And his big brother? I somehow loved him even more than I had before.”


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However, Casey’s love for her two sons is not the same, and that’s something that no longer worries her.

“The truth is, I don’t love my kids the same at all, but I realise now that that was never the goal.

“My love for them is as unique as they are from one another.”

Casey’s post has struck a chord with many mums who feel she has perfectly summed up how they feel about their children.

“I love my oldest as the perfect replica of the best guy I know; his Daddy. I love my youngest in the way that his smile reflects my own, right down to his full lips and the gap between his two front teeth.

“I love my big as my sidekick; always up for exploration and adventure. I love my little for his cuddles; for the way that he nestles into my neck and lays the whole weight of his body against me, sinking into my own.”

The mum-of-two's post has been liked by over 200 mums, with many taking to the comments to praise her honesty.

“Well said! Love that you wrote about this,” wrote one follower.

“These babies of mine? I love them in the way that I love both sunshine and moonlight; not one more than the other,” Casey concluded.

“Each one just as much, but never the same.”