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29th Apr 2022

Outrage as man suggests his wife is taking too much credit for her pregnancy

Keeley Ryan

Good grief.

A man sparked a huge debate after he got annoyed with his pregnant wife for saying she was “making a human being.”

He added that he felt his wife had forgotten he “provided half the genetic material” and that he has been to “at least two doctors appointments every month” during her pregnancy.

The anonymous man explained on Reddit’s Am I The A**hole? forum that he and his wife are expecting their first child, and that she’s around seven months along in her pregnancy.

Recalling their latest ultrasound appointment, he said:

“During the appointment, the tech was pointing out our daughter’s different body parts, telling us where the legs and feet are. It was the first time we didn’t really need the help, because we could see our baby looking like a real baby.

“My wife started crying, and I was comforting her, when she said the words, ‘I can’t believe I’m making a human being.’

“I kept comforting her, but I waited a few minutes and, once the tech was gone, gently reminded her that we are both the parents, not just her.

“I also told her that saying she’s ‘making’ the baby on her own is not accurate, since I provided half the genetic material.”

The man wrote that his wife was “still emotional at this point”, and started crying again “thinking I don’t appreciate what she’s putting her body through to be pregnant.”

Which, he claimed, was “obviously” false.

He continued:

“Especially since her pregnancy has been so tough that I’ve attended at least two doctors appointments every month. I show her with actions, not words, that I appreciate her.

“I just don’t think it’s fair to claim I haven’t contributed something to making our daughter. She is still upset the next day.”

He didn’t get quite a positive reaction from the other commenters.

One person wrote:

“You provided half the material but her body is creating the human. It is literally growing and forming inside HER body. Not yours. She’s the one feeling the physical changes and not to mention emotional changes due to the physical changes.

“You are not experiencing any physical changes to your body. You are not carrying this child, you are not forming it inside of your body.”

A mum-to-be added:

“I’m currently 8.5 months pregnant and I hate you so much right now.”

Another Reddit user commented:

“Your part happened and finished 7 months ago in terms of ‘making’ the baby.

“You are not growing the baby. Your internal organs haven’t been pushed up into your chest due to the growth of the child.

“Your body is not dealing with the hormone fluctuations and the weight gain. Your body will not be the one dealing with the trauma of labour and birth in a few short months.

“Your body will not be the one recovering for months/years from birthing your daughter.”