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17th Aug 2018

Mum left speechless when complete stranger asked to hold her baby

Anna Daly


How would you feel about this?

The idea of your child being in danger is one of the scariest feelings in the world. No one would ever want to leave their child in the hands of someone they didn’t completely trust.

But what if you’re only physically putting your child in their hands for a few seconds? If a complete stranger asked to hold your child, how would you react?

That is the situation Mumsnet user Katrina found herself in recently.

Katrina went to meet a friend at a café when the waitress there took a shine to her eight-month-old son. Katrina said that the waitress kept returning to the table to check that they were okay and to wave at the baby.

Katrina described her son as a very smiley baby and said that she is sociable herself so is used to sparking up conversations with people while out and about. Yet this waitress’s persistence irritated her.

“Not only was this annoying as I had not seen my friend in months … but I was trying to feed DS and she kept distracting him which eventually led to a meltdown in the middle of the cafe.”

Then, when Katrina was getting up to leave, the waitress came over, held her arms out, and asked to hold the baby.

Katrina wrote of her astonishment at the request:

“In my shock my mind went absolutely blank and I rather abruptly just blurted out ‘no you cannot’ – I am usually a very polite easy going person, but I was so shocked by her request and I guess instinct just kicked.”

Some users were fully supportive of the mum, saying they would never let a stranger hold their child.

One user suggested preparing herself in advance for similar questions:

“I think you’re right to trust you instincts but have something prepared to say so it doesn’t feel awkward, I think it’s natural to feel a bit over protective of our babies!”

Another applauded the mum for sticking to her guns:

“Well done for having the balls to say No, OP. I used to hate this and felt thoroughly uncomfortable with it, I wish I’d stuck up for myself more when my DC was little.”

However, not everyone agreed with her reaction.

One user wrote:

“OP I think you overreacted a bit. Do you think you were frustrated with her because she’d been back and fort checking on DS, so you inadvertently took it out on her by saying no? She obviously was smitten with your lovely baby which there could be a hundred reasons why. A quick cuddle would have probably made her day. She was hardly going to abscond with him was she?!”

Another said:

“I honestly can’t see why you would be rude to someone who admired your baby.”

Another user recalled:

“I once was out with DS alone and couldn’t get the pram up by the tills in a coffee shop. Two old women offered to sit with DS for me while I went to pay. I could see them at all times and could see DS, and I was thankful for their help.

“Not everyone is a kidnapper/paedophile/criminal, some people are just nice.”

How would you react if a stranger asked to hold your child?

Would you be shocked? Would you politely decline? Or are you all about sharing the love and cuddles?