Mum spends €4,500 to go to wedding abroad…only to be told baby daughter isn’t welcome

Her daughter is 5 months old.

A mum has told of her frustration and anger after she spent €4,500 for her family to attend a wedding abroad - only to be told her baby daughter isn't welcome. She explained that she had been invited to the wedding in Australia with 12 months notice, and that not one of her family members had told her that children weren't invited. It was only when she had already arrived that her family members told her she would have to find a babysitter. She explained on Netmums:

"My cousin invited us to his wedding in Australia with 12 months notice. "Sent us an email with the date no further info. My daughter is 5 months old. So my family said we would attend and we bought the flights. "I chased for the actual invitation about 100 times and eventually it arrived 3 weeks before we flew. "The invite said no children. I flagged that they really should have mentioned this before I bought the flight. "When we got to Australia my family mentioned maybe I could hire a babysitter, I researched online but couldn't find anyone (they live in the suburbs) Everyone I knew in Australia, was attending the wedding. "Am I being unreasonable to think its a joke they cant make an exception for a breastfeed baby flying from England? "Don't have kids at your wedding, no problem. Don't make me spend £4k on flights and accommodation to be told that my baby cant come."

Most of the commenters were in agreement with the mum, saying that they would be fuming if they were put in a similar position. One person wrote:

"If they didn't give you adequate notice of this fact they can hardly object now can they?! I would just ignore it tbh and take baby along, what else are you supposed to do now."

Someone else pointed out:

"I would've blown my top if I was you, you are not being petty.. and if you chased up the actual invitation several times with no reply within good time what do they expect? "I would also take baby along. Sounds like a last min request for no children to attend to me."

Another mum wrote:

"I'd be furious too. If couples don't want children at their wedding that's absolutely their prerogative but they need to make it clear in plenty of time for guests to make arrangements for childcare or decide not to go. "Failing to mention this 'minor detail' until you were committed to going is extremely thoughtless."