Mum-of-three fuming over her husband’s plans for his 40th birthday

It definitely doesn't involve her or the kids.

A mum was fuming when she found out that her husband would be spending his 40th birthday on a holiday with friends in Las Vegas - instead of with her and their three kids. The woman turned to Mumsnet for advice, admitting that the decision had led her to question where they ranked in her husband's list of priorities. She explained that she couldn't imagine marking a milestone birthday without him by her side - and was feeling "put out" by his choice of a lads holiday. She wrote:

"My husband is planning a trip to Vegas for his 40th birthday with just the lads meaning he will be over there for his birthday. "I feel a bit put out to be honest not that I don't trust him I do but we have 3 small children and he made it clear no wives/girlfriends were invited which makes me feel that his friends take a higher priority on his list of people he'd celebrate his birthday with and not his family. "AIBU to be a bit taken aback? "I have been a part of his life for 15 years and whilst we take trips together and with friends on our own I'd never dream of not celebrating a milestone birthday with him."

The other uses on the parenting forum were quick to weigh in on the matter, with some people torn over how they would handle the situation. Many began to label the dad-of-three "inconsiderate" for his decision. One person said:

"Wow how selfish is that, does he think he's single? How much will it cost, can you still afford a family holiday?"

Another wrote:

“Wow how selfish is that, does he think he's single?"  

Someone else commented:

"This would be a huge problem for me. It's not normal. Maybe go away with the lads as part of the 40th celebration at some stage. Over his actual birthday, no way."

But other people couldn't quite get why the mum was so upset. One Mumsnet user said:

"If he was going to Vegas alone for your 40th birthday then you'd have a point. But if that's what he wants to do for his milestone birthday, so be it."

Another person added:

"See I wouldn’t mind. What’s the issue? I often go away for weekends with my old uni housemates and we don’t take our spouses and children. "I can well imagine us going away for our fortieths when they happen in a couple of years."