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04th Jul 2016

Mum-of-Two Sparks Controversy With Her Remarks About Child Discipline

HerFamily

A mother sparked quite the controversy on Twitter when she appeared on This Morning on Friday to discuss parents punishing their children.

The segment entitled ‘Extreme Discipline: Should You Punish Your Children?’ was inspired by the parents who made their son stay in a tent in their backyard after it was discovered that he had been stealing from the family.

Mum-of-two Bea Marshall is of the opinion that punishment is an excuse for child abuse and argued that parents should not be using fear to punish their children.

She said:

“I think it’s the start of a very slippery slope and any form of punishment puts the parent in a position of power over their child. The child then becomes powerless to whatever degree and you’re using fear and control to manage your child’s behaviour.”

She compared the dynamic to that of an abusive relationship before arguing that parents need to understand the reason behind the behaviour.

Bea explained:

“I’m not condoning stealing. I just think there are much better ways to deal with this situation, or any situation with unwanted behaviour with our children… I’m not sure how much this is going to help him with his behaviour… Behind his behaviour is a positive intention…

“Whenever my child exhibits an unwanted behaviour, whether it’s knowingly or unknowingly because that’s two different things as well, I’ll say ‘When you did whatever that was, I felt sad/I felt cross/I felt frustrated because I want you to respect our home… would you be willing to explain to me why you decided to do that?’”

In contrast, mum-of-one Kelly Rose Bradford revealed that she believes kids need discipline and, while they shouldn’t be frightened of their parents, they should be frightened of what could happen if they misbehave.

And it seems the viewers sided with her. Many took to Twitter to say that they didn’t agree with Bea. Here are just a few of the comments:

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