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27th January 2018
06:00am GMT

"I did not get to feel him growing within me, or hold him against my skin when he was born. Perhaps by your definition, my child is not a part of me - he does not resemble me or my wife. "I didn't labor for hours for this child, I labored for YEARS. I waited for years to be told that we had been chosen, that we were finally going to be allowed to be parents. "I didn't feel labor pains. I felt the incredible pain of emptiness in my heart and home as my wife and I yearned to begin our family through adoption."
She went on to detail the struggles of caring for a child who has been traumatised by his past life.
"A child lives to depend on me - you're right. My child has been let down by everyone else in his life. You think I am not losing sleep? He may not wake me up to feed him every couple hours, but he screams out in his sleep - no doubt reliving past traumas from the life he led before being adopted. "Not every experience is your experience. Not every mother is a mother because she gave birth. Not every child is yours or a 'part of you' because you grew it inside of you. "My child will always be a part of me, because we're fighting for this life together."She concluded her message very succinctly.
"Fuck you. I'm a mom."Is there a divide between different kinds of parents? Join the conversation on Twitter @HerFamilydotie
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