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14th Feb 2022

Mum writes about when mental load of motherhood broke her and I can relate

Melissa Carton

“This is what no one tells you about.”

As mums, we often to try to take on everything and that’s just not possible. It doesn’t stop us trying though. It also doesn’t stop u from beating ourselves up when we can’t do it all.

I don’t know how many times I’ve allowed myself to become overwhelmed by the mental load of motherhood and I know that I am far from alone.

Parenting blogger The Whine So I Wine took to social media to share a post about a day when the mental load of motherhood broke her and it’s so relatable.

“Today, I lost it. The mental load of motherhood broke me. Finito. Buh-bye. GONE.”

The mum went on to talk about a day that she just couldn’t handle it anymore. A day when everything fell apart, her toddler refused to do anything that she asked and she just wanted to throw in the towel.

“I cried. I lost my patience. I slammed cabinets and scraped plates filled with uneaten dinner. I took away privileges and declared mommy law. Every ounce of me was tired. Tired of fighting.

This is the part that no ones tells you about. The hard stuff. The moments that break us open, that send us to the brink.

Motherhood has torn me down and built me up more times than I can count and served it up as a big piece of humble pie.”

She went on to talk about how we all have days like these but we pretend that we don’t. We pretend everything is perfect and she asked her readers why?

“Am I tired, absolutely. I’m tired of the constant correcting, of no one listening. Negotiating. Referring. Cleaning. Fighting.

But I’m more tired of hiding my messy and I think you are too.”

I’m completely with her on this one. There have been so many times I’ve felt like a failure comparing myself to other mums that seem to be able to do it all.

The truth is none of us is perfect and we all break down sometimes but we don’t talk about it but we need to, for our own mental health and that of others.

We need to support each other more and stop focusing on trying to keep up with each other and our idea of being a perfect mum.