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06th Dec 2017

Woman sends family letter criticising them for leaving kids in childcare

‘There is no point in having kids for someone else to bring him or her up.’

Anna O'Rourke

A couple has reacted angrily to a note from a woman criticising them for bringing their child to a nursery school in London.

The woman, who lives near the school in Muswell Hill, posted a note through the family’s door.

She said she had noticed their child looking “distressed and disturbed” when they were brought to and from the facility.

“Being a mum myself, I can tell you for the first four years a baby only wants its mother and it is far too young for them to interact with other children or strangers,” the woman, who signed the note as ‘Sheila’, wrote.

Muswell Hill in North London

 

“It upsets me seeing your baby crying, you are always rushing to put it in the nursery, you are not thinking about our baby who doesn’t want to be there.

“This is so disturbing for a baby as they only want their mum… You can never get these years back and someone else has those years.”

She concludes that “there is no point in having kids for someone else to bring him or her up.”

Joanna Flynn, the mum who received the letter, says it was dropped off anonymously through their letterbox.

She shared it in a Facebook group of 5,000 local parents.

“If ‘Sheila’ is in this group, my husband and I would like to have a conversation with you face-to-face to discuss this,” she wrote.

A number of other parents were annoyed by the letter.

“I’m really shocked and saddened that someone felt the need to encroach on your family life in this way. I’m sure you are doing what’s best for you and your children,”