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15th Mar 2016

Woman Sparks Controversy With Facebook Post Celebrating Stay-At-Home Mums


A mother has unintentionally sparked controversy with a Facebook post aimed at celebrating stay-at-home mums.

Ryshell Castleberry from Florida decided to highlight that just because some parents don’t actually go out to work, it doesn’t mean that they aren’t working hard.

After drawing attention to all of the things that stay-at-home mums do on a daily basis, she wrote: “This is the daily routine of many women all over the world, it starts in the morning and continues until the wee hours of the night… This is called “doesn’t work”?!

“Being a housewife has no diplomas, but has a key role in family life! Enjoy and appreciate your wife, mother, grandma, aunt, sister, daughter… Because their sacrifice is priceless.”

While many praised her for her words, others felt that she was being unfair to both working mothers and stay-at-home fathers.

Someone commented: “I work a 40-50 hr week and still do all that!” Another said: “I work a full time job and still do all of the above. I wish I could stay at home!!!”

A dad also argued: “Dont forget that there is such a thing as “stay at home dads” that do the same thing.. My brings home the slab of bacon and she loves her career… so watching two boys 23 months and 14 weeks is a FULL time job!! No one who hasnt done can remotely understand [sic]”.

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My wife does not workMy wife doesn’t work!!!Conversation between a husband (H) and a psychologist (P):Q: what do you…

Posted by Ryshell Castleberry on Thursday, 3 March 2016

(Image credit: Ricky Mujica via Facebook/Ryshell Castleberry)

In fact, Ryshell received so many negative remarks that she responded and explained: “Let me take a minute to clarify something for people making nasty comments or sending me nasty messages. First of all, this statement is generalized…

“At no point am I complaining, at no point am I not giving credit to the man who does work, the mom who does work (which I DOOOO, actually, proving how generalized this is and not to be taken LITERAL,) or the stay at home DAD. IF YOU are any of those things, read the message and replace the words with words that fit your situation.”

She continued: “The positive I see is that women… PARENTS take pride in all that they do, sometimes it is just overlooked and they just deserve appreciation for it. Also, as much as I am proud of myself for the things that I do, I am proud of my man for how hard he works. I never said otherwise. I KNOW this situation does not fit everyone’s lifesytle, it is not a post for everyone, AND WAS NEVER INTENDED TO BE.

“I posted this to my personal FB wall, expecting no more than my usual 100-200 likes. I didn’t intend to go viral, get hate messages, praise messages, thousands of comments from all angles or thousands of friend requests, (which are actually inconvient, seeing as how I need clients to request me for my JOB) Anyway, this statement was so generalized that it wasn’t even specific to my life either…[sic].”

Ryshell added: “It was for those occassional days when you have just done all you can, someone comes home exhausted themselves and forgets to point out that they have noticed your efforts of the day as well. That is all…

“I am a regular mom who helps pull the monetary load and gets help with the load at home. I am VERY HAPPY in my relationship and with how amazing my fiance is as a father [sic].”

Let us know what you think of her post and the reaction in the Facebook comments or get in touch on Twitter (@HerFamilydotie).