I am SO curious to know if other pregnant women are experiencing this you-must-be-desperate-for-a-girl phenomenon.
I have a son; I am a proud and happy boy muma currently. When I was expecting my son, almost weekly someone would examine me and announce "You're all bump, that's a girl" or "I can tell by your hips, it's a girl", or "You carrying so low, that's girls for ya."WHY must we do this to pregnant people? Guessing the sex is fun but can we skip the casual pelvic exam, please? So obviously in defiance or perhaps through some kind of maternal voodoo magic, I secretly (and correctly) thought he was a boy.
"BAM in your pelvis-analysing faces everyone!"
Now that I am the proud owner of a little boy, everyone I meet is dying to find out how much I'm gagging for a girl. It's really fascinating. In fact, it's not even A girl but THE girl, that they keep referring to.
"You're going for THE girl this time, are you?" or "Are you dying for THE girl?" or "Let's pray it's THE girl, so you don't have to go again." This last one was my own mother. Seriously.
Obviously, I couldn't care less what comes out of me. Like every parent, all I'm hoping for is a healthy, happy baby who sleeps 18 hours a day and self-winds.
HOWEVER, I can't help but notice that I've started feeling a bit defensive on my son's behalf. Why would I be rooting against another little boy? He's the hands-down best thing that's ever happened to me.
Recently I met another expectant mother (of two boys) who told me how this time around she'd opted to find out the sex of the baby so that people would stop nagging her about the girl she apparently so desperately wanted.
Weird.
The Man, in defiance, has even started telling people that he's actually hoping for a little brother for our son though this move led to an unfortunate and awkward moment in conversation at a wedding when he said: "I just love the idea of two little boys playing with each other." Doh.
So any mamas out there been on the receiving end of this assumption? Or indeed, the reverse? Tell us in the comments...
