“I’m going to be a single mum and I have no one.”
A new mum-to-be has revealed that none of her friends turned up to her gender reveal party.
The woman, who is 20 and having her first baby, revealed on Netmums that she was expecting ten guests to the party.
She’s going to be a single mum and doesn’t have the support of her family and so was hoping her friends would rally around her.
The festivities were due to kick off at 3pm and while the woman was joined by two of her best friends who already knew the baby’s gender, none of her guests had come by 4pm.
“It got to four and no one had arrived still. I spent the last of my money for the month on arranging this party, getting decorations and food and put on a full on mini buffet, and not one of the 10 people told me until 3/4/5pm that they couldn’t make it.
“Two of my “friends” showed up at 5 after I’d spent an hour crying, and then messaged me complaining I never said thank you for the cake they’d made (I said plenty of other nice things about it just forgot to say thank you as I was distressed).
“It ended up being a gathering where all of the people except me were drinking and we watched TV.
“I don’t have any family support and I was relying on my friends and felt completely heartbroken. Am I wrong to be so bothered by it?
I genuinely want to cut everyone who didn’t bother off even if they’ve messaged me since, I feel like if they can’t put aside two hours of time to celebrate my baby why should they have the liberty of calling themselves “auntie” or “uncle” despite clearly no support from them.
“I’m still shook over it, my support network is literally at 3 people! I feel so isolated as I’m going to be a single mum and I have no one.”
Many of the mums on the forum agreed that having a baby can change friendship dynamics.
A number of them told her that she’d make new friends once she becomes a mum.
“Stick with the two that were there and helped you set up the party.
Unfortunately at times like this you find out who your friends are!
“Those people who were rude enough to accept an invitation and then not turn up are not your friends and I would suggest not wasting any more time (or money) on them.”
“You get lots of new mummy friends when your baby arrives and you join baby groups etc, don’t dwell on it and just be happy that you’re growing a beautiful new baby.”
“Unfortunately when you do things like have a baby/ get married etc. You find out who your true friends are. But you’ll meet loads of new mums at classes and groups etc.”
