Happy Couples Are Those Who Can Just Do Nothing Together

A psychologist has revealed the core indicator of a happy, healthy relationship. Jeffrey Bernstein, who wrote the book Why Can’t You Read My Mind, has said that happy couples are comfortable just doing nothing together. He told WomansHealthMag.com that those who can appreciate being in the moment together tend to be the ones that have lasting relationships. via GIPHY Apparently it’s all to do with a fear of slowing down and using other things, such as work or family commitments, as a distraction from a potentially problematic union. He explained:

“I think sometimes couples numb themselves with lots of activity to avoid looking at the patterns that don't work so well or in the future could be unhealthy for them. “For example, I've seen many women, and at times men, afraid to disengage from the chaos of raising children because they don’t want to face the faulty, or even abusive dynamics of their marriages.”

Bernstein added that whilst getting into the swing of doing nothing together does take time and effort, it aids communication and openness about what works and what doesn’t. That’s not to say that couples who keep busy aren’t in a good place as each has different needs, but Bernstein believes it’s important to just sit together from time to time. He said:

“Couples who have gratitude for being together, and don’t take each other for granted, will relish the time that they share. Gratitude for each other's love is a wonderful antidote for boredom.”

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