I am not quite a stay-at-home-mum, currently I straddle the divide between SAHM and working mum as a freelancer.
In the past couple of years, I have been at home, and I have been at work for stretches at different points, and I definitely found the full-time SAHM thing much harder, but that's just me. Whether you're out at work or at home at work, I think we can all agree that being a mother of ANY description is seriously tough, not least when targeted with infernal clichés.
10 most dangerous things to say to a stay-at-home-mother:
1. "So what are you up to today?"
Like everyday is the Summer holidays and the world is our oyster of fun activities.
2. "I wish I could laze about in my pjs all day..."
Wearing pjs 24/7 is not all it's cracked up to be, it can get a little depressing. Plus we do get dressed sometimes, ya know.
3. "What do you do?"
A staple of the dinner party small talk, and weirdly a bit of a conversation ender. Why do we get so awkward when someone says they are a stay-at-home parent?
4. "You should get yourself a hobby."
It's like people think that we're desperately casting around for something to keep us busy. We have A CHILD (perhaps several) the day is pretty busy as it is.
5. "Soak it all up..."
I am soaking it all up, I am literally steeped in my children, marinating in them right now. Awake 20 hours out of every 24 if you must know.
6. "Off to the gym?"
Yep, my whole life is just yoga, gym, coffee mornings, yoga and pilates class.
7. "Do you just LOVE it?"
Sometimes yeah and sometimes it's just a bit head wrecking. Like anything in life.
8. "What did you do today?"
This one usually comes from The Man and is met by exhausted silence from me. Somehow despite being up since 5am, I can't seem to recall one single concrete activity from the day, yet I still feel like I've been hit by a truck.
9. "It must be so nice to stay home with the kids all day."
Sure, sometimes. But it's not some kind of Pinterest-heaven if that's what you're thinking. It's more like a poorly remembered montage from a drunken night out complete with shouting, crying and bodily functions.
10. "Do you miss work?"
Put it this way: I miss being
paid to answer repetitive inane questions all day long. Now I just do it for the love of it.
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