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18th June 2021
12:33pm BST

Over the last few weeks, I noticed that my husband was not quite himself. I asked him was anything wrong and he told me that he had been feeling really stressed about his work and home balance and felt like he had the weight of the world on his shoulders.
I know whenever I'm feeling like this I have the chats with one of my girls, particularly my Mammy Mot but most of the time when he meets with friends he just chats about general things like what shows he's been watching or an article he read that was interesting. It never travels into the tough stuff, it always stays on the surface.
When I broached the subject of why this is he said he didn't feel that his male friends would want to talk about the more emotional stuff.
This is something that has to change.
There are extremely high rates of depression in men in Ireland and a huge contributing factor to this is that men feel strange opening up about how they are feeling.
In 2018 this shouldn't be the case anymore, but unfortunately, it is, leading to many men suffering from depression and stress in silence.
Fatherhood, while wonderful, can be stressful and dads need to have an outlet for the pressures that can build up.
I feel like the Dad Bud is the solution. One dad that another dad can fall back on for advice or simply to lend an ear when it all gets too much. Even just someone to share a hobby with can relieve a lot of tension in my experience.
Women have always been known as the communicators but in this day and age, we all need to start talking and sharing how we're feeling a little bit more.
Modern fathers have a much more hands-on approach than a lot of previous generations and parenting is now 50/50 in most households. Still, it's mums who will chat online and in person with friends about how much of a toll parenting can have on them while dads stick to the light stuff.
The stigma around men expressing their feelings needs to end as it not only puts the dad in question under pressure but ultimately causes a ripple effect that travels through the entire family.
The Dad Bud needs to become a thing and it needs to become one fast because if we're truly going to have an equal world then dads need equal support.Explore more on these topics: