"Babysit or move out"
One mum recently reached out for advice after being called out for her attitude towards the topic of babysitting when she bluntly said her oldest kid could either "babysit or move out".
The rather frustrated mum-of-five took to Reddit to explain that she had a falling out with her 21-year-old, because they refused to help her mind their siblings .
Bearing in mind that the family were all on vacation together, the young man said he wanted to "relax and chill". In response to this, she gave him an ultimatum to either babysit, or move out when they got home.
In her post, the mum explained that her husband had to pull out of their family holiday last minute for work - and so it was herself and her five children – which was a lot, according to the mum.
Explaining her reasoning for the harsh ultimatum, the mum said that her 10-year-old twin girls, Sophia and Lisa, "cried A LOT", while 17-year-old Joshua tried to help with them and one-year-old Emily.
But Danny, 21, "stood doing nothing."
"Whatever we did, Danny was absent for it," she wrote.
"Like for example, going to the beach, banana boats, Luaus, and watching his younger sisters when they just wanted to go to the pool, he'd stay in his room on his phone, chatting with his friends," the mum complained.
She became more frustrated with Danny, and blamed Joshua for not enjoying the vacation on his lack of action.
"I hated having to put most of the work on Josh because he wanted to have fun too, and my daughters [were] helping with the baby," she wrote.
"I called him down to help, but he said he 'wanted to relax and chill. We literally came here to relax, chill, and have FUN, though we weren't having lots of fun with less help, a crying baby, two ten-year-olds who wanted to go to the pool, and my other son who wanted to get away from his sisters for at least an hour. It was a mess."
While the mum was evidently exhausted and frustrated, she took it out on Danny.
Eventually, she told him: "If you can't step up and help the woman who gave birth to you, lets you live in her house rent-free, while giving you a job, whose money you just spend on silly games instead of getting an apartment, then you can get out of my house and pay for your own stuff."
"This is parentification"
Needless to say, the controversial post quickly went viral, and had thousands of comments, with many slamming the mum for "parentifying" her adult son.
Parentification, in case you are not aware, is a term used to describe when a child is made to take on the role and responsibilities of an adult. This could be in the form of providing regular care for younger siblings in lieu of parental care (so, not just babysitting), or having to take on the brunt of the responsibility when it comes to housework.
"It was your choice to give birth to five kids. Not Danny's," one person wrote. "What exactly are you doing in this story? Except for being pregnant. Again."
Another noted: "He's not your husband or the father of your kids. Stop popping them out if you can't handle so many. And I say this as a parent."
A third one chimed in: "It very much sounds like Danny was brought along against his will to 'co-parent' his younger siblings. Hence why he spends the whole trip in the hotel room talking to his friends."
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