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5th September 2024
01:09pm BST
The mother, who is very open with her daughter about growing up, expressed concern that buying the bra might encourage her daughter to grow up too quickly.
She said that her daughter is very thin and doesn't yet show physical signs of development but has been influenced by her friends, some of whom already need training bras.
The mother said her worry stems from a desire to balance her daughter’s curiosity and the influence of her peers with the importance of not accelerating her growing up too soon.
She questions whether her concern is justified or if she might be overthinking the situation.
Lots of adult women who have been through similar situations chimed in with their advice for the young mum.
One person reflected on their own childhood experience: “In 4th grade, I wanted a bra but my mom wouldn’t buy me one because I was flatter than flat. I wanted one because ALL the other girls had one and when we changed for gym class I was self-conscious.
“I’m 37 now and I STILL think about how my mom could have spared me some embarrassment by just buying me a bra. Sports bra. Training bra. Anything would have been better than nothing.”
Another response emphasised the potential comfort a training bra could provide: “There’s nothing wrong with getting her one, and just because you think she doesn’t need one doesn’t mean she’s comfortable not wearing one.
“Especially when others may be noticing the changing bodies more. Maybe she just doesn’t want her nipples to pop out when she comes in the AC after recess, and thinks the coverage would help??”
A third person shared a personal anecdote: “I don’t see a problem with it. She may get one and end up hating it. I was and am still flat lol but I still remember when my mom took me for a training bra because my best friend in fifth grade was much more developed and she didn’t want me to feel left out. I never wore it, but it was a nice moment of just her and I.”
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