“I was told to toughen up and stop being a cry baby”
Returning to school can be an exciting time for most kids, but for many, it can be daunting and intimidating.
Bullying is more prevalent than ever and so many children are struggling to cope with it. Finding out that your child is a victim of bullying can be such a harrowing and overwhelming feeling for parents.
The panic can prevent you from thinking clearly, but Dr. Alex George has shared some helpful advice for parents dealing with bullying.
He explained that he was bullied during his time in school.
He told Hello: “I really believe that bullying is a huge issue for our generation now, as well as in the past. I was bullied in school and that certainly impacted my school experience, my mental health and my education. And it’s something that we can’t hide away from anymore.
“To make matters even worse, the bullying you face in school is then extended to the same bullying that’s happening online.”
The A&E doctor stressed, “Bullying certainly isn’t character-building. When I was younger, I was told to toughen up and stop being a cry baby. And I think we are seeing a change in attitude around that, but some of that does still exist. And we know that that can be very harmful to young people’s wellbeing.”
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He stressed that when you’re being bullied you can feel more alone than ever, but the worst thing your child can do is bottle everything up. Encouraging them to talk openly is a massive help.
“Don’t feel there’s something wrong with you. Please don’t accept it. Speak to family, speak to friends, speak to your teachers.”
Dr. Alex said having an open dialogue with your children is essential. Being aware of their behaviour, their friendship groups and experiences is key.
“Are they coming home and being very quiet? Are they doing less of their hobbies? Are they not sleeping or eating as well?”
“I think parents should say to their children, ‘If people are bullying you, it’s not acceptable and we don’t think it’s acceptable and we’re on your side,” the doctor said.
Creating a plan and asking your children what they need and what they’re comfortable with is another key step in helping them.
“I think it’s about being clear with young people that we can decide a plan of action together, and we’ll only do what you’re comfortable with.”
Seeking medical help is such a vital step. The former reality star said it is important to remember that there’s no shame in it.
“If you don’t speak to people, if you don’t seek that help, then often you just stay in that rut. So it’s really important to reach out and get that support.”
