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12th May 2023
05:12pm BST

The pair then drove to US retailer Walmart to pick up period products and a change of clothes for the tween. Once the dad paid for everything, the girl went to the bathroom to sort herself out.
"I had already explained to her how to use the sanitary napkins before entering the store not to cause any embarrassment," he explained. "I waited right outside the restroom, and had told her if she needed anything just to let me know."
Once she was changed and ready, the pair continued their daddy-daughter day by hitting the shops and picking her up a few nice things to lift her spirits. They then went home and the man texted his wife at work to let her know it had been a "big day" for their child.
"When she left her meeting, she called and I told her what happened. She completely came unglued at me and said, 'Thanks for taking my place as a mother, I guess I’m not really needed.' She soon walks in the door and says to our daughter, 'So I guess I don’t have to explain anything cause your father took it upon himself to play mommy today.'"
Shocked, the dad pulled his wife aside to ask what her problem was.
"She told me it wasn’t my place to do that, and I likely made [the daughter] feel extremely uncomfortable," he continued. "I asked my wife what was the better alternative, just letting her walk around like that and freak out alone when she eventually had to use the restroom? My wife says, 'Oh so you were just embarrassed of the red spot?'
"NO. I didn’t want HER to feel embarrassed."
Confused by his wife's reaction, the dad asked other users on the forum if he overstepped.
"I honestly didn’t know it wasn’t my place as a father," he wrote. "Should I have just let my wife handle it when she was available?"
Most commenters praised the dad for his actions and were stunned by his wife's reaction.
"You acted very appropriately and your wife is just sad that she missed that milestone with your daughter. However that doesn't give her the right to treat you that way or make snide remarks to you in front of your daughter. I think you did an amazing job and you're an awesome dad. I'm sure your daughter will always remember that you were there for her that way," one person said.
Someone else suggested his wife's reaction was "not normal", writing: "You handled it wonderfully! The memories you created were fun, safe, and you had her back. Your wife... made it about her? Was the poor kid supposed to just be there leaking through her clothes 'til the cows and your wife came home? With no explanations except 'mommy will explain what's going on... in a few hours?!'"
"Your wife could (should) have prepped your daughter for this - the talk, the period pack, the works. She didn't," another wrote. "I think handling this is the responsibility of both parents. Mom's reaction, though, I think is due to her feeling like she didn't do what she was 'supposed' to do. Her anger is displaced guilt, in my opinion."Explore more on these topics: