The joys of adjusting to your post-baby body: Sara Delmer has the lowdown

"...you’re a mum, but you are still you."

Sara Delmer

One of the things that shocked me the most when I had my first child was the fact that I still looked pregnant afterwards. I’m not quite sure what I was expecting. I hadn’t thought about it, but I guess I figured I would just snap back into shape. Oh, if only. After my first child I was determined to keep dressing the way I always had, in low rise jean and T-shirts. Suddenly however I felt uncomfortable and was forever pulling the jeans up. Something had to change.

Here are some things I learned along the way:

Wear the size you are, not the size you think you should be. This was one thing I couldn’t get my head around, the size number on the clothes tag. If something doesn’t fit you, it doesn’t fit you. Clothes that are too big will make you feel frumpy. Clothes that are too small will make you feel uncomfortable. Wear what makes you feel good.

In the early days, just after you’ve had a baby, be practical. You will be sitting down to feed a lot and will often need quick changes for when baby inevitably pukes or poops on you (trust me it happens, nappies leak). Loose cotton knickers are a must, we’ll have none of your fancy frilly knickers, thank you. Yoga pants and leggings are your go-to favourites and it’s totally acceptable to go around the house in your PJ bottoms.

Don’t hide behind black all the time… flash some colour, it will lift your spirits. Even a bright scarf or vest top under a cardigan can make a world of difference.

Wrap tops and dresses are great particularly if you’re breastfeeding. They’re very accessible, plus they can be dressed up or down. High-waisted jeans are also great for covering up your mummy tummy, and they give you a nice shape.

Buy a good bra. Your breasts will go up and down in size quite a bit. Sports bras are great for the in-between stages, but once you feel they have settled, go and get yourself measured and invest in two or three decent ones. A good bra will work wonders for you.

Don’t lose your sense of style… just because you’re a mum, you are still you.

Sara lives in Co Wicklow with her partner Owen and two girls, Abigail, 6 and Ella, 4. She blogs on whereismymindgone about life as a stay-at-home mum (SAHM) to preserve her sanity.