Postpartum: The super-helpful mental health checklist one new dad created for his wife 3 years ago

Postpartum: The super-helpful mental health checklist one new dad created for his wife

What a beautiful idea.

The postpartum period is undoubtedly some of the most intense weeks we'll ever go through in our lives. And while it feels raw and full-on and rollercoaster-y to all of us, just imagine how much more intense and difficult these few weeks are to mums who are suffering from postpartum depression or postpartum anxiety.

Kindness, help and understanding are what is needed, which is no doubt why this husband's lovely check-list for his wife recently went viral.

In a thread posted to Reddit, one mum recently shared a photo of a beautiful hand-written note her partner had made for her – and both the poster and the accompanying story are melting hearts across the internet.

“My husband is such an incredible man,” Reddit user My Little Dot wrote in her post.

“He has exuded nothing but love and support while I battle PPD/PPA.” (That’s postpartum depression and postpartum anxiety, FYI).

“He wrote this for me to look at while he’s at work and can’t be there to help me through my panic attacks,” she continued, explaining just how important these dot points are to her.

“I’m so unbelievably lucky to have him.”


Here is what the lovely note says in full:

Feeling Down?


  • You are loved by your husband and two perfect babies.
  • You’re interesting, smart, pretty and witty. Your opinions matter!
  • When you’re feeling sad, that feeling will pass even if it doesn’t seem so.


  • Deep, long breathing!

Have you:

  • eaten much recently?
  • spent time outside?
  • moved your body?
  • gotten a hug or a kiss from a love?
  • done anything for yourself?
  • had much sleep?
  • told yourself you’re human and are allowed to feel sad?

No wonder, other Reddit users loved the note, and were quick to comment in support:

 One person wrote:

“I teared up reading this. What an awesome guy.”

Another one said:

“Oh, this is so sweet! I just love seeing a partner being a PARTNER. You should laminate it and keep it in your baby box when you’re done with it!”