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16th Aug 2022

Deborah James told her mother she didn’t want to die days before her passing

Kat O'Connor

“She did say ‘I don’t want to die'”

Deborah James’s mother Heather has opened up about her daughter’s final moments.

The heartbroken mother lost her daughter to bowel cancer in June.

Heather spoke out about Deborah’s battle with cancer in an interview with BBC Breakfast.

The mum said it doesn’t feel right to outlive your own child.

She said: “We had some good times.

“I can remember lying in bed, probably just about a week or so before she died and she was quite poorly that night and she went, ‘I do love you’ and I went, ‘I love you’.”

“She went ‘I have no regrets’ and I went ‘That’s brilliant’, how many people could say that?”

“But she did say I don’t want to die. And that’s the hardest, saddest part,” Heather said.

“I think the hardest thing was knowing she was going to die.”

“My heartache was knowing as a mother I couldn’t do anything about that and I think that was the hardest for me to cope with.”

Heather said the waves of public support have helped them cope with the loss. She said it’s beautiful to see the impact her daughter made during her short life.

Dame Deborah James died from cancer at the age of 40.

Her family announced her death in a heartbreaking post on Instagram on June 28th.

“We are deeply saddened to announce the death of Dame Deborah James; the most amazing wife, daughter, sister, mummy. Deborah passed away peacefully today, surrounded by her family.”

“Deborah, who many of you will know as Bowelbabe, was an inspiration and we are incredibly proud of her and her work and commitment to charitable campaigning, fundraising and her endless efforts to raise awareness of cancer that touched so many lives.”

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