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28th Mar 2024

Dad has horrible reaction after wife lied about baby’s gender


BY Charlie Herbert

The future dad said he ‘reacted in ways I’m now questioning’

A dad-to-be was left furious after he found out that his wife had lied about the gender of their baby.

In a post on the Am I The A**hole subreddit, the 32-year-old male told readers how he and his wife, aged 25, are expecting their first child together.

He explained that during his childhood he had always “craved a strong male figure” due to never having that bond with his dad.

So, he had a “deep-rooted” desire to have a strong bond with a son, which his wife knew about.

The poster said he had been away for work a lot so had missed the first pregnancy appointments for his wife, who had attended them with her adopted mother.

He continued: “Upon my return, she excitedly told me we were having a boy. We invested emotionally and financially: a blue nursery, boy-themed items, even naming him after my late grandfather.

“However, a chance remark from her mother disclosed we’re having a girl. My wife admitted she knew from the beginning but didn’t tell me, thinking she was protecting my feelings.

“I was devastated, feeling the weight of past hurts and fresh betrayals. In my pain, I cleared out the nursery and, in a moment I regret, told her mother she wasn’t welcome at upcoming family events, seeing her as part of the deceit.”

The dad admitted to acting out of “deep-seated emotions and past traumas” and said he regretted his actions, before asking the Reddit community whether he was the a**hole for how he reacted to his wife’s deceit.

In a follow-up post, he said he “reacted emotionally without discussing my feelings with my wife first.”

“I placed blame on her and her mother, making significant decisions in the heat of the moment which might have been excessive”, he added.

Whilst the majority of people agreed that what his wife and mother had done was wrong and made little sense, they also said the father-to-be was wrong to react in the way he did.