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01st Feb 2018

Mum’s post about the impact of bullying on her daughter just broke us

Cathy Donohue

Mum's post

Heartbreaking.

As mums know, someone upsetting your child brings out another side of you, a fierce, protective side that would do anything to ensure no harm comes to your little one.

Stevie Niki, a popular parenting blogger whom you might recognise from My Tribe of Six, experienced this feeling recently and decided to share it with her Instagram followers.

The mum took to Instagram to share how she cried with her daughter after the six-year-old spoke about the bullying that’s been going on since she moved schools.

Australian native Stevie shared how distressing it was to have her daughter ask why she doesn’t have any friends.

“Questioned me as to why she doesn’t have friends and that she’s not good enough. Today she had a good day at school, she played with a kid and had fun. But this is what its like, it doesnt matter if its a good day when the pains still there and the wounds are still raw. The damage has been done and its not yet repaired – will it ever? I hope so”.

I want to pretend like today was a good day, i want to say something positive and inspiring.. but i cant, not today. I sat with my daughter after school and we both cried. My heart aches for all her pain and sadness. Most people dont see what i see, they see a loud kid, a silly kid, a happy kid, a kid that wont sit still and a sometimes defiant kid. A child with a mind that wanders, a spirit that roams free and a heart that has a wild spark. Some may even see a “naughty” kid. The truth is, all she is, is a kid (my kid) just as special as yours or anyone elses. And the kid i see at home is a kid that hurts, shes changed alot in the last few months and challenged me even more. her spark has dulled and glow has gotten darker. We have high highs and low lows. I asked her today where she has gone? And we cried. I want my happy girl back, the one who lights up the room and radiates vibes i wish i could create. My nice girl who loves her mama and her siblings, my kind girl. Today she broke down because of the relentless bullying she experienced the last 6 months after we moved and changed schools. Questioned me as to why she doesnt have friends and that shes not good enough. Today she had a good day at school, she played with a kid and had fun. But this is what its like, it doesnt matter if its a good day when the pains still there and the wounds are still raw. The damage has been done and its not yet repaired – will it ever? I hope so. Maybe we should have never sold the home we brought them home from the hospital to and changed their schools from their first. Maybe we shouldn’t have relocated. She doesnt fit into a box and i dont want her to either… Raising kids was never going to be easy, but it shouldnt be this kind of hard. I dont know what to do. I dont know what the answer is. It’s day one back and it was a good but im already questioning the schooling system and her place in it. This year i will not allow the system or any one else’s child to defeat her like they did last year. So talk to your kids, teach them kindness and inclusiveness – because no mum and no child should have to sit through this and feel what we feel.

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This led Stevie to question whether it was the right decision to move schools and homes and if the family should have stayed in the house where her children were born.

The mum of four then went on to say that she didn’t know what to do next but that she was considering what would be best for her daughter.

Her parting words include an important message, to always be open with your kids and teach them kindness so that other children don’t have to endure what Stevie’s child is currently going through.

“So talk to your kids, teach them kindness and inclusiveness – because no mum and no child should have to sit through this and feel what we feel”.