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2nd June 2023
06:30am BST

"My parents show up at about noon, while my aunt is already there with her husband and their two (adult) children. I ask my parents to wait outside for a bit so they can finish up their visit without overwhelming my wife and I, but my aunt is polite and decides to cut her time short," he continued. "Without asking, my mother takes the baby and undoes his swaddle. My parents are mostly pleasant.
"An hour later, my parents are still there and my in-laws show up, their grandson in tow. My wife tells them that they can't bring him in. Their grandson starts to cry and my MIL starts to scold us for forbidding children, so my father pipes up saying that we're being too coddling."
Then, he recalled how his mother told him they were being "rude and cold," claiming that as the newborn's grandmother "it's her right to visit the baby when she pleases and she shouldn't have to 'RSVP' to her grandson's birth". "She calls me impolite for sending out a 'demanding' email like I did and insists that if I regulate my son as strictly as I did his visitings, he'll grow up resenting my wife and I," his post continued."We told them to go, and my mother told me she raised me too well to have me be so rude to my own family. My MIL said that if my wife didn't 'crack down on me', they'd never be visiting again. My wife has changed her tune about the whole thing and thinks I was being too combative," he said. "I really don't think I was that wrong in exercising my boundaries, and I think that them not listening is proof it was needed."
Most of the Reddit users agreed with the dad and supported his list of guidelines, however some agreed with the parents. You can read the post in full here.