What would you do in this situation?
A mum has reached out on Mumsnet after her friend became difficult about meeting up to see her.
She said that she agreed to travel up to her and take a day off work, but unfortunately that didn’t seem good enough.
The user wrote:
“Best friend of 20 years doesn’t have kids. We have been trying to meet up for ages- I have offered 2 possible dates where I was going to travel to her & take a day off work.
“he’s pissed off that I can’t stay & that I have to get back to pick the kids up from school. I’d have 5 hours & am travelling to get to get to her. She’s now said she can’t do the dates I have offered & is being difficult.
“Aibu to think it’s so fucking hard sometimes trying to explain to people without kids what it’s like to work full time plus raise 2 kids- sort out childcare, manage their clubs & weekend stuff etc.
“I feel like taking a days annual leave & offering to travel is making an effort but she’s making it SO hard for me- like I should feel guilty.”
There was a lot of back and forth in the comments section, with some saying that the mum doesn’t realise that people without kids can be busy too.
One said:
“Is it necessarily harder for you though? Before I became a mum I was just as busy as I am now – maybe more because I worked much longer hours and had less flexibility in my role.”
While another wrote:
“I don’t know why OP is being painted as the bad guy here.
“She has offered to TAKE A DAY OFF WORK and DO ALL THE TRAVELLING to get to her friend. That is a NICE THING TO DO.
“Her friend is an unappreciative spoilt madam demanding more of OP’s time.”
What do you think of the situation?
