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29th Jul 2021

“You become roommates, going through the motions” – Jessica Alba says it’s “impossible” to balance marriage and kids

Laura Grainger

“You don’t consider their feelings in the way that you would consider other people’s feelings.”

Jessica Alba has revealed she believes it’s “impossible” to balance marriage and kids.

The actress, who shares children Honor, 13, Haven, 9, and Hayes, 3, with husband Cash Warren, says it’s hard to make room for dates and alone time with her spouse because they’re both focused on their kids and careers.

Speaking on Katherine Schwarzenegger Pratt’s Instagram series Before, During & After Baby, Jessica said the couple used to go on date nights “at least” weekly, but now finds it “impossible” to carve out time for just the two of them.

“It’s all rosy for two and a half years,” she said. “But then after that you become roommates. You’re just going through the motions. You have the responsibilities – it’s a lot of, like, checking the boxes, right?

“We’re just not consistent. But being able to communicate when you’re unhappy and nipping it right away instead of letting it sort of fester, and then you have animosity and then it explodes — which we’ve gone through that one!”

Jessica also added that the comfort of knowing a spouse for so long can lead to a lack of consideration for each other.

“We have, obviously, the friendship, the comfort of ‘you’re not going anywhere,’ so sometimes you don’t treat those people the best,” she said.

“You don’t consider their feelings in the way that you would consider other people’s feelings. That is something I think is a constant one to work on.”

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Jessica married the producer in 2008 after meeting him on set of the Fantastic Four.

“It’s a life journey, and if you’re both every day deciding to do it, it’s gonna work out, regardless of the drama, regardless of anything that happens,” she continued.

“If you’re both like, ‘I want to figure this out,’ nothing can really break that.”